Change Your Outlook and Your Luck Will Change
Six Ways to Maximize Your Fun
1. Approach dating as not just looking for an important relationship, but as enjoying life.
2. View dating as a chance to increase your circle of friends.
3. Find innovative and unusual places to meet people. Join a club, volunteer or take up a sport.
4. Take one positive aspect away from each date. For example, “I liked his values, her sense of style or his humor.” Pick a quality or characteristic that you would like in your future mate. This benefits you, even if you aren’t attracted to that person.
5. Become the person you’d like to date. Use your experiences as an opportunity for personal growth.
6. Embrace your singledom. You have the freedom to do anything you want, meet everyone you want and learn everything you can about yourself.
The point is to keep dating light and casual, especially early on. On a first date, go out to lunch, drinks or brunch and split the check. This keeps the expectations and pressure lower. If you decide to see each other again, you know your date is interested in you. It’s that simple.
As you get to know each new person, you’ll have an opportunity to “try each other out” and see if the relationship might work. Pay attention to what you’re discovering. As you progress on your dating journey, you’ll be exposed to new types of people and new ideas. Even if a date doesn’t develop into a full-blown relationship, you’re still growing and learning as a human being, which makes life interesting and exciting.
Breaking “The Rules”
The first and only rule to throw out all your old ideas and rules about dating!
Dating is not about playing games, using clever tactics or making sure you come out on top. There are no winners and losers as far as we’re concerned.
If you present a fake exterior and try to be someone you’re not, you deny yourself the opportunity to be liked for who you really are. And that’s what real love is all about, folks — just be yourself from beginning to end!
DON’T:
• Play games
• Play hard to get
• Pretend you’re not interested
• Wait three days to return his or her call
In other words, don’t utilize any other ploy that seems like game playing.
Dating Karma
It’s true — what you put out is what you get back! Whether you believe in the whole principle of karma or not, the idea behind it makes sense. If you are constantly thinking you’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too poor, too stupid or too anything to attract a love match, chances are you probably won’t. Plus, you attract someone who thinks the same way.
If you believe there are only jerks, gold diggers or messed up freaks out there, these are the people you will meet. If you think dating is a complete waste of time, then it sure as heck will be! Negative thoughts produce negative results. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When you catch yourself in a negative thought, give yourself a little pep talk. Say, “stop,” and turn the thought around to something more positive such as, “I’m hot, smart and one helluva catch.” You get the idea.
No one wants to date someone who has a negative attitude. Even if you think they won’t “know” that you are negative, your thoughts shine through and the negative thoughts you have will most definitely show your face.
Keep a positive attitude. You’ll attract another positive person.
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