Divorce to Remarriage - Another Step to Take in Preparing to Remarry
While thinking about reasons for the demise of your previous marriage may not cause you to pop open champagne and want to throw a party, it HAS to be done if you truly want to be prepared for a new life with a new love.
A lot of my coaching clients ask me “Why do I have to go back and think about all of that stuff?” My answer is that we are creatures of habit and will destine ourselves to repeat our mistakes if we don’t learn from them.
The key here is to make this a productive reflection. It is not a blame game. It’s not another opportunity to think about how lousy your spouse was. This time I want you to think about YOUR responsibility for the end of the marriage. Now before you get all upset and angry at me, remember this isn’t a blame game.
The point is to think about what you wish you could have done differently.
What do you wish you could take back? What do you wish you had not done? What do you wish you had done more of?You need this important information so that you can catch yourself quickly if you begin to do the same things in the next relationship. They will be red flag warning signs for you.
You also need to think about bad habits or skills you developed in response to how you and your ex-spouse related to one another. What didn’t you like? How do you want things to be different this next time around?
Those changes start with you. Taking responsibility is a sign of maturity. It’s NOT the same as saying you are to blame and your ex-spouse is off the hook. Marriage includes 2 people. It doesn’t end solely because of just one. You both had parts to play in its ending. Accepting this and learning from it will make you a better partner in the future.
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