Playing The Catch Me Game - How To Make The Chase Thrilling For Him Or Her

Most of us have lost touch with what it means to play-hard-to-get and the art of letting ourselves be caught. We’ve literally taken the “catch me” game to mean predator chases down prey and destroys it. We’ve somehow made it in such away that there must be great suffering and even blood lost (broken hearts) for anything meaningful to happen.

However, when you watch the courtship behaviour of wild animals in their natural habitats — which is where our ancestors discovered this courtship ritual and fine tuned it for their own use — the dance of the hunter and hunted is a sophisticated and genuinely delightful game with lots of good fun. It’s exciting, stimulating, arousing and breathtaking in every sense of the word.

Unfortunately for us, somewhere along the line “chasing” — a growing trend for staying “cool” in the dating ritual — became playing hide and seek with someone who doesn’t want to be caught, tricking the person to take pure baloney for reality, or playing with people’s emotions because it makes the person doing it feel wanted.

My understanding of the “thrill of the chase” which builds up to the “art of “arranging to be caught” is simply a modern version of the art of “wooing”. Where the art of “wooing” is still alive and kicking, it’s considered to be one step above the art of seducing in the delicate dance of courtship. The reality though is that, quite often seducing and wooing happen simultaneously.

This is when two people are trying to get a better feel for each other. Both have already established that there is some degree of attraction/chemistry and an interest in exploring things further. Both the man and woman are aware that the other has other women or other men to choose from and each tries to win the affection of the other. It is similar to the courtship behaviour in the wild where the male and female show off their best moves to get their potential sexual partner to mate with them. Both parties contribute an equal amount of interest and effort — no one expects it to last forever and no one feels tricked or used.

Both individuals also take great pleasure in keeping the adrenaline flowing and things more fun and interesting. This is where the “thrill of the chase” comes in.

The person doing the chasing sets out to and makes the person being chased feel affection and desire. He or she creates incidents, events and experiences that make the person he or she is chasing dream about, miss and long for him or her when he or she is not around. His or her goal is to make the person being chased feel that something important is happening and he or she (the chaser) is the reason.

The person being chased after, on the other hand, maintains a certain degree of mystery, unfamiliarity and “out of reach”. He or she creates incidents, events and experiences (smile in his/her voice when the chaser calls, smile in his/her eyes when together, genuine interest in his/her life etc) that clearly suggest to the person doing the chasing that success is possible, but some effort must be expended to achieve that success. The chaser’s efforts are rewarded by more positive signals and more challenge for him or her to step up and become more of himself or herself and do more than he or she’d dared to do before.

The “chase” inspires both parties not to become complacent or take the other for granted. The “chase” also gives both parties the opportunity to find out what really makes the other tick and what he or she is capable of as a potential long-term partner. As two people get more focused on each, the attraction intensifies and interest in other men and women gradually disappears — for different reasons.

The mistake many men and women make when they are chasing the opposite sex is waste so much time trying to turn the other person’s no’s into yes by saying this and lying about that, doing this and forcing that to happen. They erroneously think that with the right amount of hard work and persistence they can get the other person to change his or her mind. They are so focused on breaking down resistance that they fail to build bridges of genuine affection, desire and longing. Very often they find themselves chasing someone who has long lost interest in the chase. All they have left is persistence which sometimes degenerates into manipulation or begging - or both!.

The men and women being chased after on the other hand make the mistake of confusing mystery with vagueness (hiding their true feelings), unfamiliarity with uncertainty (giving mixed signals) and “out of reach” with inaccessible (making themselves unavailable or running too far ahead). This hiding of feelings, sending mixed messages and making oneself unavailable only serves to confuse and frustrate the chaser. Most people who do this turn round to find that the only thing chasing them is their own shadows.

A man or woman who is not afraid to play the “Catch me” game and knows how to let him or herself be caught is a rare breed in this day and time. Learning this fine art will definitely give you an edge that puts you ahead of the pack making you a more attractive chase.

I’ve written many articles on this delicious way of playing-hard-to-get while making sure that you’re being chased and the chasing actually leads to something positive and promising. If you want to read these articles, go to my Date Doctor website, Articles Section, and click the Playing-Hard-To-Get category). It’s easier than you think!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.

Christine’s websites: torontosnumber1datedoctor.com torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and theartofseducingoutoffullness.com theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

Planning a Rehearsal Dinner

While the rehearsal dinner may just seem like another expense and another task that needs to be completed, it’s important to not skip out on this wonderful opportunity to get together with close friends and family members for a night of relaxation in a casual atmosphere before the wedding. This article is intended to answer some of the questions surrounding the planning of a rehearsal dinner and to provide the couple with some necessary information to help them plan a successful rehearsal dinner.

While a rehearsal dinner is not necessary, it is a good opportunity to get together with close friends and family members to thank them all for their participation and assistance during the planning of the wedding as well as their participation in the actual wedding itself. The rehearsal dinner gives the couple the chance to extend their thanks to everyone who has been involved with the wedding planning or who has simply supported them in their efforts. The rehearsal dinner can also be the opportunity to relax and unwind before the wedding. The couple is able to put aside their concerns over their upcoming nuptials and enjoy the time with family and friends. The rehearsal dinner has become a common tradition in weddings but the couple is not obligated to host a rehearsal dinner if they choose not to do so.

The typical activities involved in a rehearsal dinner include meeting at the site of the ceremony to run through the logistics of the ceremony and then gathering at a particular location, a restaurant, catering hall or even a friend’s house, to enjoy a meal together. During the dinner the couple usually takes the opportunity to thank all their guests for their love and support and may choose to honor their wedding party with gifts at this time. There are also usually a series of informal toasts at the rehearsal dinner. The parents of the couple will also usually thank the guests and offer a toast to the couple. Any of the guests at the rehearsal dinner are also free to offer a toast or a few words of wisdom to the couple. While the wedding is shrouded in traditions and expectations, the rehearsal dinner is typically a relaxed atmosphere with no set agendas.

The subject of who pays for the rehearsal dinner is another confusing topic. Tradition holds that the parents of the groom assume the financial responsibility of the rehearsal dinner but more and more couples are opting to bear the burden of the rehearsal dinner on their own. There are a couple of factors that are contributing to this changing trend. First the medium ages of couples getting married is on the rise and couples who marry at a later age are typically more financially established and capable of affording to finance the rehearsal dinner themselves. In addition the responsibility of paying for the rehearsal dinner is typically accompanied by the responsibility of planning the rehearsal dinner and many couples are unwilling to relinquish the planning responsibilities. The couple wants to ensure that the rehearsal dinner reflects their personalities and tastes and therefore assumes all responsibilities for planning the rehearsal dinner.

Although the original intent for the rehearsal dinner was to include those who are actively involved in the ceremony, the couple is free to invite any other guests that they choose to join them in the rehearsal dinner. The rehearsal dinner is an opportunity for the couple to thank everyone who has supported them throughout their wedding planning and also to just relax and have a good time with friends and family outside of the formality that often surrounds a wedding. With this in mind it is appropriate to invite anyone that you want to share in this sentiment. The couple may also wish to include out of town guest in the rehearsal dinner in order to thank them for making the trip to be with them on their wedding day. While including out of town guests is a wonderful gesture, it is important to understand that the couple is not obligated to do so. If it would be too financially cumbersome to include all of the out of town guests, the couple could consider hosting a smaller event such as an evening of drinks and appetizers for this larger group. Although everyone participating in the ceremony should be included in the rehearsal dinner the guest list is not restricted to these individuals and the couple can choose to include anyone they wish.

Planning a rehearsal dinner can seem daunting as the rules are not clearly defined but it is this flexibility that makes planning a rehearsal dinner such a fun challenge. From the invitation list to the activities the couple is under no obligations to adhere to any strict guidelines in planning their rehearsal dinner. Although planning a rehearsal dinner is not obligatory, many couples opt to do so because it is such a wonderful opportunity to thank their loved ones for their continued support

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